You Don’t Have to Accept Someone’s Gift


“If someone offers you a gift, and you do not accept that gift, to whom does the gift belong?” Ask yourself, “Why would I allow something that belongs to someone else to be a source of my resentment?” — 21 Days to Master Success and Inner Peace

Someone behaves in a jerk way. Is that your stuff or theirs?

Someone acts in a bizarre way. Same thing, your stuff or theirs? Let them keep it.

You don’t have to accept any gift. Accepting it, in this case, would mean reacting to it. Leave it with them. Say, “Thanks, but no thanks.”

If it’s more important to you to be kind than to be right or vindicated or justified, then work to react with kindness — always, not with the same gift they offered you.

(Good advice, Mr. Dyer. Now if I could just apply it.)

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E.H. Bellefontaine

Evangeline Henry Bellefontaine is the fictional writer behind Maison d'Evangeline (and More Beautiful Good on Medium). She writes mostly on the topics of bibliotherapy (books + therapy), personal growth, and doing the work. Follow by subscribing to Bibliothérapie.

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Guiding Quote

A house extends skyward.
Like a tiny but proud cathedral,
it wishes to generate the highest
and the best in its inhabitants.
— John Truby

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