“Your life is like a play with several acts. Some of the characters who enter have short roles to play, others, much larger. Some are villains and others are good guys. But all of them are necessary, otherwise they wouldn’t be in the play. Embrace them all, and move on to the next act.” — Wayne Dyer, 21 Days to Master Success & Inner Peace
I often worry about the people in my life, who they are underneath the masks we all wear, whether or not they’ll do me any harm physically, financially, emotionally. I hate the thought of being vulnerable, and even though I’ve survived many hardships and overcome every single one of them, I still instinctively try to run away from anyone I perceive as being even remotely dangerous.
But here’s the truth: everyone is dangerous. We all have the ability to hurt others through our words and actions. We all make mistakes. We all have freewill. That means, at any point, we could change our minds and decide we want something other than the lives we have. At any point, we could decide to do something out of selfish motivations (and with no regard for what it might do to someone we love). No one is above this. No one is incapable of hurting someone else, even inadvertently. If that’s our measure of vulnerability, then we’re all unsafe.
I doubt the people who I let close to me (all the time, every day), and when it gets to be more than I think I can bear, I remind myself that they, too, are taking a chance on me — that I will never hurt them. And I can’t promise I never will. That means, we’re both in this together. The same power I feel they wield over me, I wield over them just the same.