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Emotional Labor

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A few stories from the last few weeks: 1.) A couple of weeks ago, I spent a couple of hours (dispersed over the course of the day) on the phone with my sister, discussing career options and weighing the pros and cons of each of them with her. Over the last half of the day, between calls, I came up with a solution for a situation within my own life and business and texted her asking if she could...

The Magic Feather: Are You Waiting for Validation to Create Your Art?

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I was reading Berni Xiong’s book, The Year of the Brave Bear, when I came across this quote (which, oddly enough, was the same message I heard just yesterday from James Altucher, author of Choose Yourself — it’s a theme this week): We wait to be chosen. We wait for others to tell us we’re good enough. We seek validation from people before we proceed with our grand idea. — Berni...

Motivation: What About the Days When You Don’t Want to Create?

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I tried everything I could to write today. I tried setting my intentions. I wasn’t “in the mood” to write (the most non-justified justification a writer can make), so I figured if I got it out of the way first thing, I’d be less likely to skip it entirely (or come up with more excuses why I could). Except my web host was experiencing an outage. No problem, I wasn’t...

Ordinariness: And Why Your Life Is (and Isn’t) So Special

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It is a quotidian mystery that dailiness can lead to such despair and yet also be at the core of our salvation. We want life to have meaning, we want fulfillment, healing and even ecstasy, but the human paradox is that we find these things by starting where we are. — Kathleen Norris, quoted in Liturgy of the Ordinary I’ve been thinking a lot lately about ordinariness. It started a couple of...

Your Ego Fears Your Art (Or Why Your Art Is Stupid)

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From David Kadavy’s book, The Heart to Start, “If you start making your art, you’re going to expose your self to discomfort. You’ll have to resist distractions to do the work, you’ll have to struggle through doing work that doesn’t yet meet your standards, and you’ll have to face criticism to make your work better.” And that’s just a few reasons why you’re not creating your art. Still, if you’re...

What’s Holding You Back from Creating Your Art?

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I was reading David Kadavy’s book, The Heart To Start: Win the Inner War & Let Your Art Shine, when I came across this line: “If you’re looking for the heart to start making something, you need to understand what forces hold you back.” Why hadn’t I thought of that? (Seriously, that’s not sarcasm.) We can’t move on to the future or stand confidently in the present, if we’re holding on to our...

Trust (and the Players in Our Lives)

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“Your life is like a play with several acts. Some of the characters who enter have short roles to play, others, much larger. Some are villains and others are good guys. But all of them are necessary, otherwise they wouldn’t be in the play. Embrace them all, and move on to the next act.” — Wayne Dyer, 21 Days to Master Success & Inner Peace I often worry about the people in my life, who they...

But Do You Think You Can Create It?

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When people find out I’m a writer, it often evokes a response like, “I would love to write” or “I have always wanted to write a book.” When I ask why they don’t, I’m met with a hint of embarrassment and, “Oh, I wouldn’t know where to start.” Usually, with a little encouragement and some hard numbers (“If you wrote just 250 words a day, which you could...

Implications, Willingness, and Wishes Fulfilled

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I’ve been exploring the idea of changing one’s thoughts. I started paying attention to my default state of mind and — having the full awareness of how difficult change and creativity and making anything worthwhile already is — knew I needed the best possible start and foundation if I hoped to succeed. I sought out books like those of Wayne Dyer and Napoleon Hill. Here were two men who, in spite...

Guiding Quote

A house extends skyward.
Like a tiny but proud cathedral,
it wishes to generate the highest
and the best in its inhabitants.
— John Truby

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