Tagmeaningful life

Emotional Labor

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A few stories from the last few weeks: 1.) A couple of weeks ago, I spent a couple of hours (dispersed over the course of the day) on the phone with my sister, discussing career options and weighing the pros and cons of each of them with her. Over the last half of the day, between calls, I came up with a solution for a situation within my own life and business and texted her asking if she could...

Ordinariness: And Why Your Life Is (and Isn’t) So Special

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It is a quotidian mystery that dailiness can lead to such despair and yet also be at the core of our salvation. We want life to have meaning, we want fulfillment, healing and even ecstasy, but the human paradox is that we find these things by starting where we are. — Kathleen Norris, quoted in Liturgy of the Ordinary I’ve been thinking a lot lately about ordinariness. It started a couple of...

Without a Friend in the World (Can We Talk About Loneliness?)

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My relationships have always mattered to me a great deal. I’m an INFJ (first sign), and I was the oldest child of a broken family (my parents divorced when I was young, and out of a well-kept secret fear of my siblings being separated, I took on the role of keeping us together). As I grew older, I figured out that (a) that’s not everyone’s priority (relationships and staying...

How to Not Suck at Relationships (Baby Step #1: Know the People You Love)

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I’ve been reading a book called Relationships Are Everything: How to Not Suck at Relationships & Make a Dent in This World. If you’d asked me before starting this book what was most important to me, I would have said my relationships. I’m less than a third of the way through the book now, and I’m starting to change my mind. My relationships have felt a lot trickier lately (say, over the last...

The Have-To of Creativity

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I’m reading the book Why Fly? A Philosophy of Creativity by E. Paul Torrance. One of the first quotes that stood out to me was this: “To be creative is to be unpredictable and the unpredictable always makes us uneasy. We like to be able to predict because we feel safer, more secure, more in control of things.” How this plays out in our lives: (From ourselves) I want to create...

What’s the Point of Everything?

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You ever just stop and wonder what the point is to everything? It doesn’t even have to be with a sense of resignation or disappointment (although, for a lot of people, I think that’s the case). From a place of pure curiosity (and maybe in hopes of making the most of the time here), what is the point, really? Although I question most religious beliefs, I do believe there’s a...

A soul can be saved. The world won’t help much.

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A soul can be saved. But it will take softness and depth and space. The world won’t help much. — John Ortberg At the beginning of his book, Soul Keeping: Caring For the Most Important Part of You, John Ortberg quoted his friend, writer and professor of philosophy Dallas Willard, who said, “Hurry is the great enemy of spiritual life in our day. You must ruthlessly eliminate hurry from your...

Guiding Quote

A house extends skyward.
Like a tiny but proud cathedral,
it wishes to generate the highest
and the best in its inhabitants.
— John Truby

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