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You Can’t Control Everything — Keep Going

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I changed web hosts and rebuilt my website a month ago. It wasn’t in the plan. Either way, I’d outgrown my original setup and needed to make a change. So I did. Almost immediately, I started having trouble with the new host. The site was offline as much as it was on, and when it went down for two days in my last week with the company (the final day for nearly twelve hours), I knew I...

The Magic Feather: Are You Waiting for Validation to Create Your Art?

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I was reading Berni Xiong’s book, The Year of the Brave Bear, when I came across this quote (which, oddly enough, was the same message I heard just yesterday from James Altucher, author of Choose Yourself — it’s a theme this week): We wait to be chosen. We wait for others to tell us we’re good enough. We seek validation from people before we proceed with our grand idea. — Berni...

Playing Small

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The suppression of who we really are in our relationships causes comparison and the side effects are shame and playing small. — Lori Harder, A Tribe Called Bliss Playing small. Reminds me of another quote: Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to...

Don’t Waste Creative Energy

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I was reading David Kadavy’s book, The Heart to Start, (yes, I’m stuck on it lately) and read the following quote about criticism and bullying: “Criticizing others wastes energy we could be using to grow. [He quoted someone who said], ‘I’ve never found a bully that was doing amazing things with their life. Successful, happy, well-emotionally-balanced people don’t have time...

Your Ego Fears Your Art (Or Why Your Art Is Stupid)

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From David Kadavy’s book, The Heart to Start, “If you start making your art, you’re going to expose your self to discomfort. You’ll have to resist distractions to do the work, you’ll have to struggle through doing work that doesn’t yet meet your standards, and you’ll have to face criticism to make your work better.” And that’s just a few reasons why you’re not creating your art. Still, if you’re...

What’s Holding You Back from Creating Your Art?

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I was reading David Kadavy’s book, The Heart To Start: Win the Inner War & Let Your Art Shine, when I came across this line: “If you’re looking for the heart to start making something, you need to understand what forces hold you back.” Why hadn’t I thought of that? (Seriously, that’s not sarcasm.) We can’t move on to the future or stand confidently in the present, if we’re holding on to our...

But Do You Think You Can Create It?

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When people find out I’m a writer, it often evokes a response like, “I would love to write” or “I have always wanted to write a book.” When I ask why they don’t, I’m met with a hint of embarrassment and, “Oh, I wouldn’t know where to start.” Usually, with a little encouragement and some hard numbers (“If you wrote just 250 words a day, which you could...

Going After Your Dreams

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Going after your dreams — what does that even mean? Especially once you’re grown. There are things I remember from growing up, times when I was clearly dreaming and imagining what my future would be like. I remember my siblings and friends dreaming, too. As an adult, I can’t tell you the last time I dreamed about my future or heard other adults imagining theirs. We say things like...

Stories Make Up Whoever It Is I’ve Become

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I went to a used bookstore the other day. The owner started talking with me and said how nobody reads anymore. That’s sad, but I get it. Attention spans are shorter. Competition for them is higher. Maybe we’re busier. But, then again, I don’t get it. I was reading a book by Peter Orner (Am I Alone Here? Notes on Living to Read and Reading to Live — probably enough said right...

Guiding Quote

A house extends skyward.
Like a tiny but proud cathedral,
it wishes to generate the highest
and the best in its inhabitants.
— John Truby

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