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You Don’t Have to Accept Someone’s Gift

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“If someone offers you a gift, and you do not accept that gift, to whom does the gift belong?” Ask yourself, “Why would I allow something that belongs to someone else to be a source of my resentment?” — 21 Days to Master Success and Inner Peace Someone behaves in a jerk way. Is that your stuff or theirs? Someone acts in a bizarre way. Same thing, your stuff or theirs? Let...

Start Now

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Life will never be perfect, so just begin moving in the direction of your dreams. Life will catch up—or it won’t. Doesn’t matter. At least you’ll be making a go of it. Regrets don’t have to go far back (although a lot of times they do). My most recent ones: first, last year, going in a career direction I knew in my gut and heart was wrong for my life, and second, not...

You Can’t Control Everything — Keep Going

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I changed web hosts and rebuilt my website a month ago. It wasn’t in the plan. Either way, I’d outgrown my original setup and needed to make a change. So I did. Almost immediately, I started having trouble with the new host. The site was offline as much as it was on, and when it went down for two days in my last week with the company (the final day for nearly twelve hours), I knew I...

The Magic Feather: Are You Waiting for Validation to Create Your Art?

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I was reading Berni Xiong’s book, The Year of the Brave Bear, when I came across this quote (which, oddly enough, was the same message I heard just yesterday from James Altucher, author of Choose Yourself — it’s a theme this week): We wait to be chosen. We wait for others to tell us we’re good enough. We seek validation from people before we proceed with our grand idea. — Berni...

The World Will Be a Better Place If You Create What You Want to Create

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“The world will be a better place if you create what you want to create.” —Dan Norris, Create Or Hate Sometimes I wonder why I’m so fixated on creating things (and on writing, especially); there are days when it feels painful and pointless. (Am I some kind of a masochist?) Making art hurts. I look around at all the creators who’ve gone before me, and while I sometimes hear...

Ordinariness: And Why Your Life Is (and Isn’t) So Special

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It is a quotidian mystery that dailiness can lead to such despair and yet also be at the core of our salvation. We want life to have meaning, we want fulfillment, healing and even ecstasy, but the human paradox is that we find these things by starting where we are. — Kathleen Norris, quoted in Liturgy of the Ordinary I’ve been thinking a lot lately about ordinariness. It started a couple of...

Don’t Waste Creative Energy

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I was reading David Kadavy’s book, The Heart to Start, (yes, I’m stuck on it lately) and read the following quote about criticism and bullying: “Criticizing others wastes energy we could be using to grow. [He quoted someone who said], ‘I’ve never found a bully that was doing amazing things with their life. Successful, happy, well-emotionally-balanced people don’t have time...

But Do You Think You Can Create It?

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When people find out I’m a writer, it often evokes a response like, “I would love to write” or “I have always wanted to write a book.” When I ask why they don’t, I’m met with a hint of embarrassment and, “Oh, I wouldn’t know where to start.” Usually, with a little encouragement and some hard numbers (“If you wrote just 250 words a day, which you could...

Going After Your Dreams

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Going after your dreams — what does that even mean? Especially once you’re grown. There are things I remember from growing up, times when I was clearly dreaming and imagining what my future would be like. I remember my siblings and friends dreaming, too. As an adult, I can’t tell you the last time I dreamed about my future or heard other adults imagining theirs. We say things like...

Guiding Quote

A house extends skyward.
Like a tiny but proud cathedral,
it wishes to generate the highest
and the best in its inhabitants.
— John Truby

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