I’ve been exploring the idea of changing one’s thoughts. I started paying attention to my default state of mind and — having the full awareness of how difficult change and creativity and making anything worthwhile already is — knew I needed the best possible start and foundation if I hoped to succeed.
I sought out books like those of Wayne Dyer and Napoleon Hill. Here were two men who, in spite of challenging circumstances, managed to learn how to influence their thinking and, by all accounts, became happy and successful.
I’ll admit, I expected some resistance from my own limiting beliefs (Yeah, yeah, you gotta BELIEVE it before you’ll SEE it.). I’d heard all the visualization and “secret” stuff before, yet while I certainly came across those and similar messages, I did not expect to come across this one:
“If you want to accomplish something (anything), you must first expect it of yourself.” — Wayne Dyer, Wishes Fulfilled
Wait, what book is this?
I’d expect this kind of message from, say, Jocko Willink (although I haven’t actually read any of his books), but Wayne Dyer?
“If you want to accomplish something (anything), you must first expect it of yourself.”
Of yourself? Not for yourself?
At first, this brought me some relief (Okay, good, wishful thinking is still not my bag, but hard work I can handle.), but then I thought about the deeper implications.
You must expect it of yourself.
First off, are you willing to do whatever it takes to get what you say you want?
Want a Porsche in the driveway? No problem, but will you do what it takes to get a Porsche?
Want to write the next great American novel? Fine, but will you do the work required to create it?
A lot of times, we’re willing to dismiss dreaming bigger (Those kinds of things simply won’t happen for me.), because we’re not willing to do the work. Of course, we hate or will never admit that. We’d rather say the dream is out of reach than admit we don’t want it badly enough or aren’t disciplined or are lazy.
But what about the implications of the thinking?
“If you want to accomplish something, you must first expect it of yourself.”
Maybe the hard work, in this case, is accepting that if I want better thoughts, I alone am responsible for creating them.
So what does that mean? Maybe it’s that if you want to accomplish something, you must expect it for yourself (yes, for). The wishful thinking hurdle I may have to overcome, but the very first one, one I hadn’t even considered, is my willingness to take ownership and responsibility for choosing and influencing my thoughts.