I always think of gifts in terms of financial ones — physical ones, and I never can afford what I truly wish I could for a person (no matter how I’m doing financially).
I was reading Wayne Dyer’s 21 Days to Master Success & Inner Peace and came across this quote:
“Work on your personal program of self-love, self-respect, and self-empowerment, and create a huge inventory of what you wish to give away.”
It made me think, What if I could give something even more valuable than financial and physical gifts?
What if, instead of figuring out ways to save up more money, I could figure out ways to save up more self-empowerment or creativity or inspiration or courage? What if I could think of all the “gifts” I’d love to be able to give away and find ways to store those things up instead?
When I look back over people who have influenced me most in my life, often it’s not the ones in closest proximity to me. In fact, they might be people I’ve never even met, people like Seth Godin or Chris Guillebeau (who I actually have met) or Wayne Dyer.
These are people who gave me the gift of courage to take risks or the belief in my own abilities or an understanding of the importance of having a positive mindset, and while I can certainly remember a few physical gifts I’ve received over my lifetime, it’s these kinds of intangible ones that have shaped who I’ve become.
But how do we “store up” these kinds of intangible things so that we can then give them away?
Wayne Dyer says, you can’t give what you don’t have, so if you want to give away more love, you have to first have more love on the inside. How can you develop more self-love? If you want to give away inspiration, how can you become more inspired?
Do a “gift inventory” and decide what qualities you want to develop and build up over time. Start working on becoming those things you most want to be able to give (and on developing those qualities within yourself).
With time, you’ll naturally start giving away freely to others what you’ve learned how to possess within yourself.