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Live a life that’s true to YOU.

You Don’t Have to Accept Someone’s Gift

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“If someone offers you a gift, and you do not accept that gift, to whom does the gift belong?” Ask yourself, “Why would I allow something that belongs to someone else to be a source of my resentment?” — 21 Days to Master Success and Inner Peace Someone behaves in a jerk way. Is that your stuff or theirs? Someone acts in a bizarre way. Same thing, your stuff or theirs? Let...

Emotional Labor

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A few stories from the last few weeks: 1.) A couple of weeks ago, I spent a couple of hours (dispersed over the course of the day) on the phone with my sister, discussing career options and weighing the pros and cons of each of them with her. Over the last half of the day, between calls, I came up with a solution for a situation within my own life and business and texted her asking if she could...

Start Now

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Life will never be perfect, so just begin moving in the direction of your dreams. Life will catch up—or it won’t. Doesn’t matter. At least you’ll be making a go of it. Regrets don’t have to go far back (although a lot of times they do). My most recent ones: first, last year, going in a career direction I knew in my gut and heart was wrong for my life, and second, not...

Not Everyone Will Like Your Art (It Has to Be Okay)

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For the next year, I’ve made a commitment to a second project. When it’s running full throttle, I have to give it the bulk of my time. But I also have to write (have to), so while I’m committed to that other project, I’m forced to keep tighter reigns on my writing commitments. I don’t always like it, but there is a hidden benefit to it: there’s no pressure. For...

You Can’t Control Everything — Keep Going

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I changed web hosts and rebuilt my website a month ago. It wasn’t in the plan. Either way, I’d outgrown my original setup and needed to make a change. So I did. Almost immediately, I started having trouble with the new host. The site was offline as much as it was on, and when it went down for two days in my last week with the company (the final day for nearly twelve hours), I knew I...

Gratitude and Loving the Ones You Love (Even When It Feels Impossible)

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My relationships have seemed more challenging in recent years (actually, maybe all the years, but I think my tolerance for those challenges has fallen off more recently). Sometimes, it’s just hard to love the people you love, you know? I came across the best reminder for maintaining gratitude, even when your relationships are less than ideal. It’s by Berni Xiong in her book, The Year...

Ordinariness: And Why Your Life Is (and Isn’t) So Special

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It is a quotidian mystery that dailiness can lead to such despair and yet also be at the core of our salvation. We want life to have meaning, we want fulfillment, healing and even ecstasy, but the human paradox is that we find these things by starting where we are. — Kathleen Norris, quoted in Liturgy of the Ordinary I’ve been thinking a lot lately about ordinariness. It started a couple of...

Without a Friend in the World (Can We Talk About Loneliness?)

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My relationships have always mattered to me a great deal. I’m an INFJ (first sign), and I was the oldest child of a broken family (my parents divorced when I was young, and out of a well-kept secret fear of my siblings being separated, I took on the role of keeping us together). As I grew older, I figured out that (a) that’s not everyone’s priority (relationships and staying...

How to Not Suck at Relationships (Baby Step #1: Know the People You Love)

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I’ve been reading a book called Relationships Are Everything: How to Not Suck at Relationships & Make a Dent in This World. If you’d asked me before starting this book what was most important to me, I would have said my relationships. I’m less than a third of the way through the book now, and I’m starting to change my mind. My relationships have felt a lot trickier lately (say, over the last...

Trust (and the Players in Our Lives)

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“Your life is like a play with several acts. Some of the characters who enter have short roles to play, others, much larger. Some are villains and others are good guys. But all of them are necessary, otherwise they wouldn’t be in the play. Embrace them all, and move on to the next act.” — Wayne Dyer, 21 Days to Master Success & Inner Peace I often worry about the people in my life, who they...

What’s the Point of Everything?

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You ever just stop and wonder what the point is to everything? It doesn’t even have to be with a sense of resignation or disappointment (although, for a lot of people, I think that’s the case). From a place of pure curiosity (and maybe in hopes of making the most of the time here), what is the point, really? Although I question most religious beliefs, I do believe there’s a...

Going After Your Dreams

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Going after your dreams — what does that even mean? Especially once you’re grown. There are things I remember from growing up, times when I was clearly dreaming and imagining what my future would be like. I remember my siblings and friends dreaming, too. As an adult, I can’t tell you the last time I dreamed about my future or heard other adults imagining theirs. We say things like...

Guiding Quote

A house extends skyward.
Like a tiny but proud cathedral,
it wishes to generate the highest
and the best in its inhabitants.
— John Truby

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